: The Bitch Syndrome


I am a woman. I was born in a period when woman emancipation and woman's rights were a given matter. I was taught that women are capable of everything they set their minds on and that we are no less than any men.
I know we aren't the same as men and I do not support extreme feminist attitudes, I believe that our differences help us living together and keep us united. But all my life, I rarely met a woman that had the character to fit in my idealized version of "girl equals power"...
I have very few girlfriends, and as i get older, I put less and less effort in making new ones...I'd rather hang out with the boys, because I can relax and forget about the constant stabbing in the back, nasty comments about non-present friends and judgmental gossiping...I feel that something is lacking in my life, and once in a while I feel like I cant trust any of the woman I know. I am told I am to demanding, I am a high maintenance friend or I expect too much of them...but why then, doesn't this happen with male friends?
Recently I found myself in an argument with a girl which isn't really my close friend and the situation escalated to the point I no longer want to hang out with her or with my group of friends that know her...I feel like I was crucified publicly by being honest with her, got a massive "Fuck You" in my face, and now I have to bear the comments of my close friends' about what she thinks happened...(coincidentally or not, a different version of mine..)
This situation, although different in context, feels like a
deja vu of past girlfriends that one way or another stabbed me in the back and massively disappointed me. Although I don't want to pretend I am a victim or that I am better than anyone else, I cant help but feel sad for the fact that women just can't support each other....I know I wont for most of them....
The number of bitchy girls i have met, drastically surpasses the number of genuinely interesting, honest and even polite women I know and although in principle, I dont even feel like being their friends, I am a woman and I should keep on trying right?
There is really no conclusion for this post, but I know one thing, the few girls that I believe are worth fighting for will stab me in the back again and bitch me as usual, but I will put up with it, and I will forgive them in the end...unfortunately, there will always be a huge percentage of women that are just not worth confronting...

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

We both men and women agree on something, we can not trust in women

hiyokochan said...

and thats a shame...

Anonymous said...

Women are just to competitive on the long run and on details. And that what sometimes anoys men.

Men tend to have more short run competitiveness, and usually are a bit more relaxed and less hardheaded on details. And that´s what usually pisses the women..

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